Knowing yourself - who you are and what you are capable of - gives you the ability to solve your problems or achieve your goals.
How do you introduce yourself to a person you just met? Do you talk about what you do? And when you're trying to establish a deeper connection, what parts of yourself do you reveal to the other person?
If you really think about it though, the task of introducing ourselves is a bit tougher than we think. There's no such thing as a fixed me. At one moment, you could feel like you can do pretty much anything, and at another moment, you could secretly feel helpless about how things are going. With some people, you feel very much at ease, and yet with another group of people, you could struggle to connect. It could be the time of day, the environment, who you're with, or the circumstances that affect who you are at any given moment.
It's as if we have a suite of programmed responses that automatically play out under a specific set of circumstances (e.g. how we react when someone challenges us or makes us feel inadequate), and a general program that's quietly present in our lives - our general disposition, our preferences, and a lot of other traits that seem to define who we are.
Whatever word you use to call it - identity or personality type - you know it's there. It's been there for quite some time and will most likely stay with us our whole lives.
In a way, what's possible for us in this lifetime, is both given by and limited by this thing that we call me. Armed with that insight, some important questions to ask yourself are:
- Do I completely know myself - my personality, how I communicate, how other people see me, my preference, my automatic responses? And do these work for me or against me?
- And after I have gotten a more complete view of who I am, including my limitations and strengths, how do I recreate myself to deal with whatever I have in my life right now (both my problems and goals)?
For all our complexity, we didn't come with a user manual. It could take our whole lives to understand why we do what we do. It could take an even longer time for other people to fully get to know us and accept us for who we are.
What if we could take a series of steps to get to know ourselves better? What if it could be as simple as taking some on-line assessments that will reveal aspects of ourselves? What if we could get those who are important to us to tell us more about ourselves? What if we could start taking actions that we never knew we were capable of and start steering our lives into the direction that we really want?
Well, that is exactly what a coach can do for you - not just anyone who one day decided to print a business card and called himself a coach, but someone who seriously put themselves through a rigorous process of learning how to coach and actually putting in the coaching hours to get their clients to see something they've never seen before.
Just to be clear, a coach isn't someone who will tell you what to do. The job of a coach is to be a thinking partner, and their main tool is to ask questions that make you think.
Working with a coach is a very different experience compared to getting a mentor, attending a training program, reading a motivational book or consuming media. It's not about putting in more information. It's about knowing yourself, and quite possibly, recreating yourself.
If all you needed was a shot of confidence, consuming motivational content (reading books, watching videos or listening to podcasts) might give you some headway. But f you're interested in coming up with a plan that's customized just for you, a coach can help.
Are you ready for what the future brings? Are you ready to birth your highest possible self?